Denial & Trust

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Who do you trust and how can you tell if someone is trustworthy?

This is a process that is imperative to teach ourselves, our kids and our students. Our Politically Correct society, over-focus on sensitivity training and the trend towards "acceptance" and "non-judgement" has made us unable to tell a trustworthy person from an untrustworthy one. And it is imperative that we know how to do this. You could say its a matter of survival.

When we do spot the fake, no matter who it may be, we are reluctant-even fearful- to call them out. Why? We fear being told we are "not being a team player", or we fear "offending" someone, we fear being labeled "inflexible", "uncooperative", "non-compliant" and the ever dreaded "racist".

I read an interesting article recently and one part really stood out:

"Denial exists because human infants, though equipped with trust-o-meters, are built to trust, blindly and absolutely, any older person who wanders past. Life would be brief, incredibly complicated, and unbearably frightening for any baby who didn't invest automatic confidence in her caregivers, who suspected adults of deception whenever they said, "Drink this; it's good for you" or "Those people are evil" or "Grandma will take care of you." We all have faith in the people we encounter during our early youth. If they deserve this, our trust-o-meters are programmed to function accurately, and we're well on our way to a life of wise discernment."

The article continued:

"Sadly, however, few child-rearers deserve the unmitigated trust babies invest in them. Some adults, purposely or (far more often) accidentally, give children unhealthy drinks, from tainted water to Jack Daniels. Others, out of malice or (far more often) ignorance, create unwarranted fear and prejudice. Sometimes Grandma is a psychopath or (far more often) a short-tempered neurotic whose idea of childcare involves strapping the kiddies into her Cadillac so she can cruise the red light district searching through binoculars for her ex-boyfriend's car."

"If something along those lines happened to you, you've been conditioned to attach the definition "trustworthy" to people who are, in fact, untrustworthy."

So how can you tell if someone is trustworthy? Find out at the link below and please, teach this method of knowing to every young person you know. Their future depends on it.

How Can you Tell if Someone Is Trustworthy?

What are some of the ways that help you "spot the fakes"?